Death, Taxes, and Probate

More on my series on stuff never mentioned in political campaigns but that are insidiously destroying people's hard work and family legacy (nothing exiting in the energy markets at the moment):

There are times in life when one is extremely vulnerable - particularly during a divorce or the death of a loved one - and at just these moments our legal system has devised ways and means of doing irreparable damage to your personal finances in an effort to gouge the living sh*t out of you in your hour of need.


While probate does not evoke the passions of divorce with all of the political angst associated with the latter, a little preparation goes a LONG way. Only 50% of marriages end in divorce... 100% of lives will end in death.

I am NOT a lawyer, and this is not legal advice. If you are your average Middle Class Millionaire ("MCM") you probably don't need a great deal of expensive and intimidating estate planning. You need to educate yourself on the process, you need a Revocable Trust, sometimes call a "Living Trust", (you can get the forms at many Legal Forms web sites for about $20) and then you need to move your assets INTO the trust (just go to your bank or broker, they know what to do and its free). Upon your demise, your assets will go to your beneficiaries WITHOUT going through the very expensive and time consuming Probate process.

The statutory probate fees can be VERY excessive (as a percentage of your estate) if you employ leverage (debt). You see, the statutory percentage is of the GROSS estate, not the net. For example, let' say you have $3 million assets and $2 million of debt. The probate fee might be 3% to 7 % of the the $3 million gross, not $1 million net. So let's go with the 7%. Probate fees of $210,000 for net assets distributable to your heirs of $1 million is a 21% death tax. Is that what you worked so hard for? Don't let this happen.

If you are over 60 years old, I would certainly recommend that SOME of your assets be held in some sort of FIXED (not variable) annuity. (BTW, I am not a paid shill for the insurance industry a la Ben Stein and his association with the Variable Industry. I don't even have a valid insurance license at the moment as I have let it lapse.) Wall Street spends a great deal of time and money trying to disparage these insurance products in the press. I want to share with you my own experience. I have put millions of client's $$ in these over the years, and I have NEVER heard one of them say that they wish that the annuity check they receive every month like clock work would stop coming and they would have been better off in the stock market. EVER. Especially as they get older. The last thing you need when you are getting on in years is the opportunity to screw up badly. Opening the envelope for the monthly check is not a decision that ends in tears. When you are 60, you are healthy and thinking clearly - this is not always the case 20 years hence, but there will always be some sc*m bag willing sell to an 80 year old person something they really don't need.

The other cool thing about annuities is that they bypass the probate process entirely (provided that it is not a "Life Only" annuity) and upon your death the insurance company will distribute directly to your stated beneficiaries.

If you have a complicated estate, by all means seek out an attorney. I am fortunate in that I have a buddy of mine that I barter services with. I handle his financial stuff and he helps me with my legal stuff. But for your average MCM, I think a visit to Barnes & Noble or the local public library and a couple hours of reading and researching on the Web should be sufficient for you to feel comfortable going to a site like Legal Zoom and buying the Living Trust form and doing it yourself. I actually bought one of these and brought it to my attorney friend who said "nothing wrong with this", and we doctored it from there.

These are REAL issues facing regular folks that most just don't think about and you are never going to hear about in a political campaign. The entrenched special interests have too much at stake for these things to see the light of day, and the folks that usually raise the alarm on government abuse issues just aren't that interested in divorce and probate reform, but these are the issues most likely to take a bite out of your behind. So you are on your own.

Greg


The Marriage/Divorce Industrial Complex

Nothing to do with energy, but EVERYTHING to do with your personal finances (a bad decision here will make the Energy Crisis seem like a sneeze in the middle of the Divorce Swine Flu).

"The Marriage/Divorce Industrial Complex." (The term was coined by yours truly in this forum.) I am not an attorney, but I have done quite a bit of financial advisory and trust and estate work over the years.

So you want to get married... or your child wants to get married. I could start with asking what's your definition of marriage, or question your knowledge on the history of marriage, or more to be more pointed - family law... but I will assume that either you or your child is in love! and everything is right with the world...

Before getting married, have you read the family/marriage/divorce laws of the state you plan to reside in? Have you made contingencies for understanding the laws of states you might live in the future? Of course not! People in the throws of love are not thinking clearly - they are suffering from a benign psychosis from which they will eventually become cured. (And marriage is THE cure.)

We all read the papers. We all watch with incredulity as people like Paul McCartney spend more time in divorce court than they spent married only to end up paying $100 million for the "mistake" of falling in love (we all get the circulated emails detailing the "dollars per tryst" McCartney et al paid out and how much better a deal Elliot Spitzer got).

Unfortunately, the lesson learned here is often not to be more careful, but... "Wow, if I marry a wealthy person I can score a big payday!" Sorry, I was being P.C... the truth is that that is the lesson 99.9% of the time.

But what if you have nothing? OK. Will that always be the case? Have you considered the impact and temptation of your success on your future spouse? Money has destroyed many a marriage and home. Every monied target of divorce is surprised when this hits them - right between the eyes - after a decade or 2 of killing themselves to provide for their family. They come home one day to a process server, and a sentence of YEARS dealing with the opposing divorce attorney, forensic accountants, consultants, judges... $Kaching! For this examination before trial... $ Kaching! for that hearing... $Kaching! "I'm a lawyer, and you need a forensic accountant"... The cash register just keeps ringing for these blood sucking scum - all at the expense of YOUR CHILDREN!

(I always ask my wealthy clients a few "set-up" questions when discussing this very tough subject: "So, you are going to be the bread winner? Congrats. Big responsibility. What are your spouse's responsibilities? Oh, you are going to have a full time nanny and a cleaning person? Great! It is good to be the king. I see why your betrothed is marrying you... now tell me again... Why are you marrying them?" Then I get a bunch of "nice", "wonderful", "caring", etc... Then I gently remind them that "in marriage/family law there is NO REQUIREMENT for a spouse to continue being any of those those niceties"... "but there is plenty of Law requiring you to continue to be the provider both during AND after the marriage". You should see the look on their face at that moment... Especially when I point out that "in Florida the non working spouse can take up a passionate relationship with their personal trainer, and that you will be required to fund that relationship both during AND after your marriage". They frequently leave the meeting hating me - and always the spouse hates me. But the deed is done, and I send them off to the lawyer for their pre-nup. Marriage is business, and if you are to survive this business financially you need to think out 5, 10, 20 years.)

But let us forget the Super Rich. What about the average, Middle Class Millionaire ("MCM")? More than half of these self-made folks will come home one day after killing themselves to provide for their family for 10, 20 or 30 years, only to find their spouse has joined some "support group" that is absolutely, positively intent on destroying your family, or the spouse has developed a substance abuse problem, or the spouse has decided that just don't fill their emotional needs anymore, or has fallen in love with the mail man, or you are just plain sick of each other... (I'd like to spend more time on the politicization or Oprahization of marriage... but suffice it to say that there are political groups and agendas that are doing their absolute best to destroy your marriage and break up your family - they need the money and the political support.)

Enter the Pre-Nuptial agreement. Here's where the history lesson comes in. In the early part of the 20th Century married women had little protection in Family Law. Too, they had limited educational and vocational opportunities (not so today - more than half of college graduates are women). Then women got organized and the pendulum swung HARD the other way, after all there are no "Men's advocates" (just count how many men's magazines there are - now count how many women's magazines. Men should read these before they get married). For a couple of decades women DESTROYED men in divorce court. Just wiped the floor with them. This was supported by the local judiciary and legal community for one simple reason - MONEY $$$$$$$$!!!!!!!

What a source of revenue for a lawyers in a nation with 10X THE NUMBER OF LAWYERS PER CAPITA AS JAPAN, the other big industrial economy, and what a source of political contributions (from the lawyers to the judges. Most local judges are ELECTED, and guess who contributes FAR AND AWAY the vast majority of their campaign contributions? Bingo! The local divorce lawyers.)! It was a "marriage"/rip off made in heaven.

Oh, but markets HATE a vacuum. People started to put off marriage, or not marry at all. Then came the Pre-Nuptial agreement.

40% of people (read MEN. There are dozens of "Bride" type magazines, but have you ever heard of "Groom" magazine? NAFC ) under the age of 40 are not getting married at all, and half of those that marry now do so with an agreement detailing the outcome should the marriage fail, including short circuiting the lesser spouse (in terms of assets or earnings power) from brow-beating the other with onerous legal fees. Seems the people voted with their feet to short circuit what they saw as an grossly unfair disservice of the legal system. What a country! 27 states have enacted the Uniform Pre-Nuptial Agreement Act as controlling law, and every state allows them.

I am not an attorney. Exactly what goes into your pre-nup is between you, your spouse, and your lawyers. But have an agreement. Keep the marriage/divorce industrial complex out of your children's education fund, your daughter's wedding fund, out of your bedroom and your legacy. Help these people to find honorable employment elsewhere by starving them out. Believe me, they deserve it. They would happily take the food right out of your children's mouth. In the scheme of things, they are only 1 or 2 steps below child molester.

Sorry, that one got away from me. They are only 1 step below child molester, not 2 steps...

The various states could easily fix this mess by simply requiring that before a marriage license can be issued a notarized, bona fide pre-nuptial agreement is filed in the county of residence, and by agreeing to be governed the Uniform Pre-Marital Agreement Act... But don't count on that coming to pass. There are just too many special interest groups that profit both financially and politically by the destruction of your family.

Our society desperately needs family units at its base, and EVERYTHING within marriage/divorce law has given people every incentive to avoid marriage and has given the non-financial spouse of high earning or wealthy people EVERY reason to seek a divorce - and a pay day.

WTF is up with that?

Greg










Propoganda

Ever hear that B.S. about pay disparity between men and women? Sure, we all have and we hear it all the time.


Two school teachers in Florida both have a consensual sexual relationship with 16 year old students. The male teacher gets 5 to 10 years. The female teacher? 5 months. (BTW 5 months in each case would have been more than enough to get the point across.)

A woman (Caylee Anthony) murders her own daughter. Does the State seek the death penalty? Nope. Another guys kills a man that was sleeping with his wife... So... The State seeks the death penalty. Of course! Does this make any sense to you? (Disclosure: I am vehemently opposed to the death penalty, murder (I am funny that way), and abortion... )

The wife of the Fort Lauderdale police chief got, get ready for this - 9 MONTHS - for shooting a gun at her husband... not once, but 3 times! Two shots fired while she chased him across their yard! Never mind that firing a gun during the commission of a crime is supposed to be a 30 year mandatory sentence here in the Sunshine State; never mind that those 2 shots could have killed one of my kids as they drove by.

How many years do you think that a white 48 year old MALE, say me, for instance, would get in PRISON - not some county jail - but don't drop the soap PRISON... for firing a gun at my wife? Wanna bet its more than 10 years? What's up with 9 months? We have people in prison here for 30 years for POINTING a gun at someone during the commission of a robbery (OK with me), but this lady gets 9 months for trying to kill her husband?

I want to know where the outrage is in this case. Where are the women's groups that rail against domestic violence?

We have become a nation of victims - race, gender, height, weight, nationality, sexual orientation - and these "victims" now enjoy incredible advantage in marriage/divorce, criminal justice, job advancement, collage acceptance... so much for justice being blind.

For the most part our system sentences criminals to prison for far long, but not in this case.

I want to know what the heck is so special about this woman?

Oh, and about that pay disparity... just another fiction. But you will keep hearing it, because someone wants you to believe it.


Greg